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Emotion Focused therapy in BOULDER & via Telehealth Across Colorado and North Carolina

Heal through the power of connection.

Repair your attachment wounds and deepen your intimacy with Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT).

Your emotions are your compass

We are biologically wired to need other people. When our relationships feel shaky, our entire nervous system goes into distress. You might withdraw, "pursue" people with anger, or feel lonely even when you aren't alone.

EFT is about getting underneath the surface-level arguments and finding the primary emotions: the fear, the longing, and the need for security. I help you navigate these vulnerable places so you can stop the cycle of disconnection and start building a "secure base" with yourself and those you love.

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Break the Cycle

In our sessions, we focus on changing the "dance" of your relationships:

Identify the Loop: We see exactly how you get stuck in the same painful patterns over and over.
Access the Core: We find the vulnerable emotion hiding under the "reaction" (like the sadness hiding under the anger).
Create New Bonds: You learn to express your needs in a way that actually pulls people toward you rather than pushing them away.

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“You ignore your emotions at your peril because they are organizing you whether you like it or not.”

-Les Greenberg

Relational Somatics

Because I am a somatic therapist, I don't just listen to your words; I watch your body’s relational signals. I help you notice how your chest tightens when you think about conflict, or how you "leave your body" when things get too intimate. We heal the relationship by healing your nervous system’s response to connection.

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FAQS about Emotion Focused Therapy

While it's the "gold standard" for couples, I use it with individuals to help them understand their "attachment style" and how they show up in all their relationships.
There is no "right" way to feel. EFT helps "overwhelmed" people find regulation and "numb" people find their vitality again.
Yes. Secure attachment actually makes it easier to say "No" because you no longer fear that a boundary will lead to total abandonment.
EFT is a structured approach. Most people see a real shift in their relationship "cycles" within 12 to 20 sessions.
Yes. Relational work is very effective over telehealth, and I work with individuals across both states to help them improve their relational health.

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